Well, I'll go to the foot of my stairs...

Often startled, frequently amused, sometimes scared; rarely speechless. Can be found at witchywoo22@yahoo.co.uk

Tuesday, June 27, 2006

I comment a fair bit...

...on other feminist blogs. I try to say what I think in a polite way - I'm all for feminist discourse, me; I believe feminists have a lot to say to one another - but, I confess, sometimes I can get a bit stroppy. But, hey, just because I'm a feminist that doesn't mean I'm perfect, right? It doesn't mean I can't get stroppy? I apologise if I've stropped out on you - especially if your post triggered my troll-bells when you posted as 'anonymous' and you're someone who just can't be bothered to check 'other' and put your initials or something in the reply box. But, hey, I apologise. No harm intended.

Something I've noticed: there is a lot of (often media driven) stereotypical thinking about various feminist ideologies that simply aren't true.

"No shit, Sherlock!" I hear you cry.

These stereotypes are seriously pissing me off. They're confusing me. They're helping me to assume the views of other women without actually hearing them. They're creating differences and divergencies where, actually, there are none. They're also putting me into a box so that, when I identify as a radical feminist, I'm getting all kinds of shit thrown at me for stuff I don't think or believe and ways of being that have nothing to do with my reality - particularly with regard to the sex thing..

I've had enough of being misrepresented by the way I choose to define myself so I'm going to spell it out.

Sex is fab. Real, human, touchy-feely, non-commercial sex. I don't care who does it or how they do it - just as long as they both/all want it that way. There is no shame, no judgement, no requirement for public whipping/approval.

Sex is fab but not as essential as breathing...or water....or food.

Does that clear it up? I'm a radical feminist and I think sex is fab.

Are there any stereotypical notions about how you identify as a feminist that you'd like to clear up? Go for it.

16 Comments:

  • At 11:52 AM, Blogger v said…

    where to start...

    ;)

     
  • At 12:45 PM, Blogger Andrea said…

    Hurrah!

     
  • At 4:08 PM, Anonymous deviousdiva said…

    I really really like short skirts. On myself and other people. Bad, bad feminist.

     
  • At 8:01 PM, Blogger spotted elephant said…

    Oh, witchy-woo, if we were on the same continent I'd seek to meet you so I could hug you. (And then talk and talk and talk!) I can't tell you how this post lifted my spirits.

    Here's my addition: radical feminists don't think that sexism is more important than racism, homophobia, ableism, sizism, etc.

    Radical feminists care about and work to end ALL OPPRESSION.

     
  • At 8:19 PM, Anonymous Amananta said…

    I hesitate to say it because it reeks of heterosexist privilege, but I am a feminist and I love my husband! And my son! I also bake very good cookies!

     
  • At 8:35 PM, Blogger Sarah said…

    I hugged Witchy. *grin*

    I am learning loads from reading thios blog - but I do love my boy child to bits and I shave my legs. I also own a skirt!!

     
  • At 9:34 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said…

    Witchy, You do make me laugh! Here goes: I am a radical feminist and I have a sense of humour!! I am not miserable and ranting all the time. There, That's my contribution. Oh and I have a long skirt for wedding emergencies. Pippa xx (From One salford feminist,I can't sign in, sorry, I am on a foreign computer and things don't work well!)

     
  • At 12:26 AM, Blogger belledame222 said…

    Sure. That (my, at least) sex-positive feminism means that I'm not interested in anything than sex; or that I fuck 24/7 like bunny; or that I'm shallow, or frivolous; or unconcerned about rape or abuse. Or particularly interested in men. Or that I think of other people as "prudes" just because they don't like what I like, do what I do. (I do have a problem with people trying to tell me they know my own experiences better than I do).

    The physical act of sex may not be as essential as breathing, no; for me, for humans in general. But reclaiming my own body and reconnecting to my desires was absolutely fundamental, and not just for my sex life; for my whole being. I won't hijack your blog to explain why, but: just, trust me. It was. It is.

     
  • At 12:30 AM, Blogger belledame222 said…

    or, I should add, that the term "sex-positive" is meant to imply that anyone who doesn't share all my predilections (feminist or otherwise) is "sex-negative." It's about defining myself in opposition to the (patriarchal) sex-negative messages we're all imbued with; and the fact that while it's not the only thing I'm concerned with, I do put it front and center, because it's important to my core understanding of being a feminist, of being queer, and of the kind of self-awareness and tolerance I think is invaluable for citizens of a democracy.

     
  • At 1:15 PM, Anonymous gillo said…

    That straw feminist sure gets around doesn't she?

    Ohkay: I am a feminist, but I remove leg and armpit hair, wear make-up, am currently leasing my womb out to an unplanned baby (contrary to the 'delights in murdering widdle foetuses for trivial, ie unimportant to me reasons' stereotype) whom I will dress in pink if female, cuz it's kinda cute. I do however quite fancy the idea of a curfew for men, since women seem to have an unofficial curfew imposed upon them by male behaviour (see yesterday, after the match? My end of town, I couldn't have gone out to the shop if I'd wanted to. And don't get me started on how much of my taxes went towards the necessary police presence. What other hobby could cause so mch upheaval and yet so little public outrage?).

    Biiiig comment. Sorry.

     
  • At 1:00 AM, Anonymous hedonistic said…

    Witchywoo, your comment about radical feminism and sex on Belledame's site inspired me to (finally) post something about this on my own site.

    My own misunderstandings about radical feminism had led me to believe I couldn't be radical, straight, "girly" and hypersexual . . . even to post pictures of my face or body on my blog due to - gasp! - the supposed sin of "objectification."

    All I really needed to do was a little research. Is checking in with Wikipedia on the different kinds of feminism so hard for some of us to do? Guess so!

     
  • At 11:33 AM, Blogger Laura said…

    I'm completely with you on this one - sex is fabulous :D I just hate porn. How many times...?!

     
  • At 9:02 PM, Blogger Sarah said…

    Hey Hon! If you ever strop out on me and I don't like it I'll let you know!
    ((Witchy))

     
  • At 11:30 AM, Blogger Sarah Louise Parry said…

    Once you get being stroppy sussed, you've got being a feminist being sussed! It's our job to boot the patriarchal pigs up the arse: so don't go apologising for being stroppy, it's an asset! Never change. I love your blog btw!

     
  • At 4:06 AM, Blogger Ginger said…

    Witchy, some of us really like it when you comment on our blogs ; )

     
  • At 11:06 AM, Blogger hexyhex said…

    Man... that's a big list.

    I'll try and put it on my blog.

     

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