Well, I'll go to the foot of my stairs...

Often startled, frequently amused, sometimes scared; rarely speechless. Can be found at witchywoo22@yahoo.co.uk

Sunday, April 09, 2006

April 9th 2005...

...was the day Andrea Dworkin died.

April 9th is also Hugh Heffner's birthday. He's eighty years old today. The 'Playboy King'. He's still condoning, advocating, and promoting the sexual hatred of women and he's still making millions out of misogyny. He's still living in luxury through his pimping of women young enough to be his great-grandaughters; selling them naked, vulnerable, available and sexually abused so that men everywhere can pay to masturbate to the images of their degradation and feel like......what do they feel like? Men? Or the sad fucks that they are?

Hugh Heffner is still alive and Andrea Dworkin has been dead for a year. I so wish it was the other way round.

They both changed my life.

Hugh Heffner started his money making women hating empire just before I was born. He made naked female flesh available to the male masses and was instrumental in creating the pornographic lie that men (and even some women, apparently) now believe actually is female sexuality. He was instrumental in normalising the pornographic expression of misogyny; making it mainstream, accessible, 'hip' and 'ok'.

I was born a girl. As a result, I have had to live my entire life with the effects of Hugh Heffner's twisted ideas about my body, my sexuality, my bodily integrity, my self. Hugh Heffner's lies about the sexual accessibility of women have oppressed me. They have put me in danger and they have hurt me. In many personal aspects Hugh Heffner has stultified my life.

Hugh Heffner changed my life by making my body - the part of me that I walk about in - at best, a spectator sport; at worst, a fuck hole. His notions about my sexuality have made it impossible for me to honestly be who I am. He and his ilk have negated me and removed my humanity. He has put me in danger. I guess that's what pornography does.

Andrea Dworkin changed my life when I read what she said. She knew what I meant. Andrea Dworkin knew how the Hugh Heffner's of this world had changed my life. She knew how misogyny worked. She knew how the sexualisation of misogyny made it impossible for any woman to be deemed human. Andrea Dworkin knew that the fundamental oppression of women was sexual and that that underpins all the other, myriad oppressions of the patriarchy. She cared about all of that and the effect it had on people and on human relationships.

Hugh Heffner only cares about the money he makes from sad fucks.

Andrea Dworkin cared about people.

Oh, but....that's so unfashionable.

Fuck 'fashionable'.

It would've been so much better if Hugh Heffner had died and not Andrea. At least she had something constructive to say......and she said it so well. Hugh Heffner destroys lives; both men's and women's. Andrea Dworkin saves lives; both men's and women's.

And the choice, here, is...?

I wish you a gruellingly painful unhappy birthday, Mr Heffner and I really hope you die soon.

16 Comments:

  • At 11:25 AM, Anonymous Laurelin said…

    Well said, Witchy-woo. What a powerful post. xxx

     
  • At 12:05 PM, Blogger Kim said…

    I love this post.
    "I so wish it was the other way around."

    ME TOO, Witchy! I hate Hugh and I miss Andrea.

     
  • At 5:13 PM, Blogger Biting Beaver said…

    Excellent post, he really has affected women like this. But no, as long as women are oppressed porn will continue to be one of the biggest ways we oppress them.

     
  • At 6:22 PM, Blogger Sarah said…

    I love you, did you know that?

     
  • At 11:49 PM, Blogger spotted elephant said…

    What an excellent post!

     
  • At 7:26 AM, Blogger hexyhex said…

    Wow.

    I wish I didn't instinctively recoil from such strong sentiment.

    My problem, not yours. Thank you for this post.

     
  • At 4:05 PM, Blogger v said…

    brilliant x

     
  • At 5:09 AM, Blogger cameo said…

    bravo!

     
  • At 3:33 PM, Anonymous saltyC said…

    I can't believe it's been a whole year without Andrea. It feels so cold without her.

     
  • At 11:49 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said…

    I have to also mention that the monster Hefner was the first to promote cartoons,articles and some pictures of gang rapes of women and children,incest and sexual murders of women and children as jokes for over 40 years in a mainstream magazine! All documented in an excellent powerful report that came out in 1986 by Dr.Judith Reisman for the US Justice Department for the Office Of Juvenille Justice and Delinquwncy Prevention called,Images of Children,Crime and Violence in Playboy,Penthouse and Hustler Magazines.

    I myself was molested at the age of 13 because of Playboy's and it's imitators sexist portrayals it teaches are normal and sexy to teen boys and men of women as nothing but body parts to feel f*uck and forget! When I was 13 and a half in the Fall of 1978 I was very big busted and considered beautiful and I was the only girl in a small classroom of 14 year old boys. Two of these boys repeatedly grabbed at my breats and crotch and one of the boys who told me how beautiful I was made two references to the women in Playboy. The other boy shoved a pornographic magazine picture at me and said "Here is a picture of a girl fingering herself."

    They were treating me exactly the way Playboy and *all* pornography portays women and teaches boys and men that they have a right to use us for sex because this is all we are for and we are obligated to sexually seve them! And to them I matched the Centerfold image and was like a centerfold in person that they could use! I was told by Rhea Becker from The Women's Alliance Against Pornography when I spoke to her about it in December of 1991 told me and others have told me too,this is very common. Rhea had told me that police records are full of cases in which women and children were shown pornographic pictures as part of the sexual assault. It's also common in sexual harassment in the job!

     
  • At 2:58 AM, Blogger witchy-woo said…

    Anonymous -

    I hear you, sister.

    Femvist is hosting a blog to raise awareness about sexual violence on 18 April - http://lelyons.wordpress.com/

    If you haven't already been there, take a look. Your story fits.

     
  • At 4:21 AM, Blogger Carolyn said…

    witchy-woo thank you for this link. Do any of the victims say pornography was a direct part of their sexual abuse?

     
  • At 4:40 AM, Blogger witchy-woo said…

    Whether they say it or not Carolyn, pornography was probably a direct or indirect influence on their abuse.
    Read BB's series that I've linked to above - see what you think.

     
  • At 12:19 PM, Blogger Carolyn said…

    wichy-woo,

    I have known about the research om the harm of pornography for years as I was victimized by it myself as I said. I know that Dr.Gail Dines has said that many of her female students are telling her that their boyfriends are constantly asking them to do the things they see in the pornography. She said this in an online March 2003 interview. She also said that many women are so afraid of not having a man in their life that they will give in and do these things even though their instincts are saying don't do it.

    Dr.Chyng sun of New York University also said that many women have told her that their husbands and boyfriends are constantly asking them to do what they see in pornography.

     
  • At 3:47 AM, Anonymous Carolyn said…

    Also please see my post on Genderberg in the articles for discussion section about a recent terrible disturbing Time Magazine article called,Sex in The Syllabus about some college courses teaching Pornography courses! Not about the ugly sexist woman-hating damaging truth about it though!

    I'm fullhumanity on there,and I also posted a great important article called,Column:Pornography" A Vicious Cycle by University of Illinois student Dan Molison about how he went to a men's sexual assault prevention conference at the University of Indiana and they talked about pornography's effects on men and how it teaches men to see and relate to women. And he says the truth in this article that pornography dehumanizes women as non-human objects just to used by men to satisfy male sexual desires,

     
  • At 12:24 PM, Anonymous Carolyn said…

    There is a disturbing topic on Netscape The Woman's Forum called,Is Pornography Bad? as if they even have to ask. And not one of them brought up the feminist perspective of sexism,dehumanization and hatred of women. A few women said their husbands are addicted and it caused problems in their marriage,and a few women said they feel it demeans women,but disturbingly a few said that if couples want to watch it or someone alone to get them aroused,it's OK and their private business.I just posted a long and informative post on the ugly truth about the sexist harms,sadly a lot of them probably still won't get it,it just goes to show how women have been disturbingly influenced by how how normalized and mainstreamed it's become in an already very sexist male dominated society that most women are very conditioned in!

     

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